Dickens was a badass

Apr 05

Female Bodies: A Weighty Issue →

fozmeadows:

Hypothesis:

We have, as a society, such a completely disordered, distorted perception of female bodies that the vast majority of people are incapable of recognising what “overweight” actually looks like on a woman, let alone “healthy”. As such, we’re now at a point where women are not only…

Dec 18

Steven Dietz: How my children - black and white - informed ‘Jackie & Me’

denvercenterblog:

By Steven Dietz
Playwright, Jackie & Me

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I am standing outside a room where my son and daughter are talking about baseball and race. I am eavesdropping.

My daughter is 7; my son is 6. My daughter is white. My son is black—and has just arrived via adoption from Ethiopia six months earlier. We have introduced him to a sport called baseball, and he has started playing it. My daughter, the baseball historian in our family, is telling him all about Jackie Robinson. As she speaks, I realize that our family is having its first conversation about race.

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Jul 25

Comic: I'm a Sexual Assault Survivor. | Bitch Media →

Jul 24
worb:

sabrina the teenage witch hired this balding man to play a high school student

worb:

sabrina the teenage witch hired this balding man to play a high school student

May 24

The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys' →

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!” 

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement.

Apr 01

Favorite kid quote of the day: “I’m hard core!!!” (diva like hand movement)

Mar 31

noxxhands:

SCREAMERS ARE NOT OKAY

EVER

BECAUSE PEOPLE LIKE ME HAVE PANIC ATTACKS

PEOPLE ALSO HAVE SEIZURES

AND PEOPLE ALSO COULD HAVE OTHER THINGS HAPPEN TO THEM

IF YOU POST SCREAMERS ON APRIL FOOLS OR ON ANY DAY OF THE FUCKING WEEK YOU ARE HONESTLY A HUGE PIECE OF SHIT AND SHOULD FEEL TERRIBLE

Mar 30
davemakesmybrokorogodirkydirky:

WHY AM I LAUGHING SO FUCKING HARD HELP

davemakesmybrokorogodirkydirky:

WHY AM I LAUGHING SO FUCKING HARD HELP

Mar 30
darklordkankri:

iM CRYING IT LOOKS LIKE THE CAT IS FLOATIN OFF LIKE HE REALIZED HIS DESTINY OR SOMETHIG AND THE CAT IN THE BACKGROUND IS JUST WOW HOLYSHIT I NEVER THOUGHT YOU COULD DO THIS

darklordkankri:

iM CRYING IT LOOKS LIKE THE CAT IS FLOATIN OFF LIKE HE REALIZED HIS DESTINY OR SOMETHIG AND THE CAT IN THE BACKGROUND IS JUST WOW HOLYSHIT I NEVER THOUGHT YOU COULD DO THIS

Mar 30

mew2:

*gently kisses your face* i hope you all had nice days today you deserve it and if you didn’t have a nice day today, tomorrow is always a new day friend i love u and i am here for you *kisses your face again and runs away*